As we find out later, getting through the door is never really the hard part, although we may think so at the time. Though we may have expended a lot of effort to get to the entrance itself, to find the key and go through the door, the real difficulty in engaging with the self lies on the other side, waiting in the darkness. All disciplines have crucial testing thresholds, thresholds that ask us if we are serious or if we want to turn back and do something else. If we are equal to the test, it is also a time when we realize the greater import of what we have dedicated ourselves to. At this threshold we find that there are dimensions that have absolutely nothing to do with our particular comfort or happiness, that in actual fact we are involved with others as much as, if not more than, ourselves and this takes an ability to actually get beyond that small self that first searched for the key and turned it in the door."
David Whyte, The Three Marriages